You’ve probably asked a similar question before. Or something that sounds like,

“Am I doing that avoidant thing again where I meet a good man but I’m still not interested?”

Men and masculine energy are like bees to honey when you’re feeeeeling and pouring into YOURSELF.

The continuous loop of talking about dating, why you aren’t dating, who you’re dating and why it’s not working out IS going to keep your life partner at bay. The thing you focus on grows.

I know you’ve seen the women before you give their all for the ones they love.

The truth is that if he feels that’s what he’s doing to you, he may simply decide you deserve something - and someone else all together.

And while he was busy looking for solutions, all I wanted was to talk about the foundational things I feel need addressing.

Recently a client asked if she should cancel the dates she had coming up because she wasn’t in the “right” energetic state after a couple of disappointing dating experiences.

When we work together I’ll help you clearly see where you’re being “picky” vs being in your standards.

While you know this isn’t a pattern you want to carry forward, you find yourself slipping into not only taking care of your kids, but your man, too.

If there’s something in your outer experience that’s not desirable, take a moment to drop the judgement, and lean into curiosity (genuine “oh this is interesting” curiosity) and ask, what am I doing, saying, feeling, accepting or choosing that’s aligning me to this experience?

I’ve always been in love with my man’s potential from our very first date when he told me he imagined a life for himself outside of the usual box.

When you’ve asked your man to make a change and you see no change in sight.

I take a look at my sexual energy - When was the last time I danced, rolled my hips, felt sexy with myself? How connected or disconnected am I feeling with my body?

I don’t know about you, but I’m not willing to live a life filled with fear, worry and doubt.

Like the tiny curl in Jack’s gorgeous mane that reminds me of coming down from my apartment to see him waiting at my front door on our first date.

She’s been seeing a wonderful man for a couple of months now and right off the bat, he let her know he was undecided about having children.

If you call yourself a hopeless romantic, I invite you to ask yourself - What makes a story romantic?

All that efforting and focusing on fixing the problem is literally deepening the problem and expanding the gap between you and him.

More than anything, I’m suggesting you bring playFULLness to your love life and dating experiences.

Whether you wait two weeks or two months, these are questions that will help guide your decision on when you’re ready to sleep with someone.