He’s triggering your insecurities, you’re triggering his. But you never thought of it this way. Trust me I know, because I’ve been there too.

Seeing only from your point of view, or only from his, is not healthy. But when you take both into consideration, you open the doors to the healthiest love you have ever experienced.

How would your relationships shift if you chose love over fear more often than not?

It makes me think of small dog syndrome. You know how the little chihuahua barks so much that its little body keeps bouncing around? While the great Dane is stoically walking by without a care in the world?

A trigger offers a lens into your past and a chance for healing. And since every bit of fear you uncover presents a new path for love, this is a very good thing.

Only when we become aware of our emotions, spend time with them, and get curious about them can we develop our emotional literacy and the words to follow suit.